So its been a while,i have been swamped with school and work ? I often wish i could go back to the days when things were so easy; when all i had to worry about was the number of red comments in my result booklet ,how to ensure that i was wellbehaved enough for mumy to decided to take us out,how to please our parents enough to make sure we got the best dresses with frills for Christmas and Easter. But going back would be so wrong,i would never have gotten the opportunity to know God,to meet some people and most importantly live my Life. I guess i just have to shove my complaints and live my life the best way that i can. Right.
There's actually something weighing me down,i mean it's seriously on my mind. So i have this family friend that has become like a sister to me. We virtually do things together now and this our new found friendship never reach 6 months ooo. This lady is planning to get married,the banns and invitations are out sef. Now my friend comes out to say she doesn't want to go through with the wedding and she gave me her reasons and to say that her story was pathetic would be putting it mildly. I was also shocked about some of the things she had been doing for her fiance all in the name of making things work.(I am not against making sacrifices for love and peace'sakes but there has to be a limit abi)......................... dont want to bore you with all the details but the long short cut short is that she feels that she is getting the short end of the bargain and people around her are not giving her what she wants(Her right to decide whether to go on with the wedding or not). Seeing her sad and gloomy about her impending nuptials is making me feel bad as i believe that marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured. Apart from praying,i really need to talk to my friend and give her advice that won't boomerang. What to say ?
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. If your friend has valid reasons for not wanting to go ahead with the wedding, she should follow her heart and call it off. Marriage aints bean at all
ReplyDeleteyeah Toin has a great point. its better to call it off now and deal with the blow back of calling it off, than to go through with it and get kids and all sorts and finally divorce later down the line. at the end of the day, its going to be her in the marriage, not her friends or family, but her. Soo she should do whats best for her.
ReplyDeleteToinlicious took the words right out of my mouth!
ReplyDeleteIf she's not at peace with the wedding, she should opt out quickly! You don't venture into married life carelessly...its a lifetime thing...not a fast food you digest and dispose when you take a crap.
The fact that she's uncomfortable about getting married is proof that IT WAS NOT MEANT TO BE! It doesn't matter how much preparation has gone into it...she can still change her mind at the last minute.
@toin;thanks,i agree
ReplyDelete@Lovelife4sale;Thanks
@Afronuts;lol @the fastfood point.
Thanks y'all.
If she feels shortchanged, she probably is. Let her follow her godly instinct. No need martyring herself just to get married.
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